Some things that have happened recently have made me very aware that the transition between childhood and adulthood is very difficult in this culture. Friends from several different environments, relatives, children of friends, children of colleagues, and so on. In all of them there are adult-aged children who are having huge problems with the transition.
Here are some examples:
- The person who is paralysed by not knowing which direction to go in after (or before) university and sits at their parents' house depressed
- The working adult child who lives with their parents and shows no sign of moving out, despite their parents wanting them to
- The adult child who is consistently treated like a little child by their parents
In all of these the question seems to be one of responsibility and society's attitude to it. Children often do not want it because they don't know where to start and there are too many options. Parents sometimes want their children to take it without knowing how to equip them to take it. Or they expect the child to take responsibilities without the rights or the rights without that responsibilities.
So what to do about it?